Monday Afternoon Mantra - 12/29

Hi everyone!

Please accept my apologies for a late mantra. I've been feeling under the weather today! But here's a great one for ringing in the New Year this week.

"Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right!" -- Oprah Winfrey

I have to tell you, I am so optimistic about 2009. We have the opportunity to start fresh and new and make this year exactly what we want it to be!

Cheers!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 12/22

Good morning friends!

I hope you had a great weekend and weren't caught up in the chaos of the malls. Yikes! I stayed away.

Here's a Monday Morning Mantra that is important to remember during the holiday season:

“Celebrate the happiness that friends are always giving, make every day a holiday and celebrate just living!" -- Amanda Bradley

Enjoy your holidays and remember to extend that feeling of celebration and appreciation throughout the year! :)

Love,

Nicole

Obama Named "Person of the Year" by TIME

So this wasn't big news to me. Obama is the man. :)

But I thought it was really amazing to just think about Obama's humble beginnings, which so many of us can relate to. He didn't come from a privileged home. He didn't have both of his parents in his life. He didn't cruise through school with all A's. He had some real trials to overcome -like all of us - and he made a choice not to let his past dictate his future.

One of the things I talk to people about all the time is hope. Having hope can make all the difference in your life. Not surprisingly, Obama's book, The Audacity of Hope, talks about the role it has played in his life.

Click here to read about Obama's honor.

No matter what your situation is, keep hoping!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 12/15

Good morning guys!

I hope you had a great weekend. Here's our mantra for the week:

"When you're passionate about something, you want it to be all it can be. But in the endgame of life, I fundamentally believe the key to happiness is letting go of that idea of perfection." -- Debra Messing (Starter Wife)

Ditch perfection for the week and just strive to be the best you can be.

Nicole

Thankful Today

This week has been a busy one - lots of new projects, Donte's birthday, an interview in Richmond, Va., etc., etc.! So I thought this was the perfect time to stop, take a deep breath, and give thanks.

I'm thankful for my husband, Donte, who just turned the ripe ol' age of 27 (I've robbed the cradle!).

I'm thankful for the nice man at Mr. Tire who gave me a discount on my tires this past weekend.

I'm thankful for the roof over my head and food in my fridge during a time when so many people are struggling financially.

I'm thankful for my daughter's "A" on her math test this week! (Go Riss!)

I'm thankful that just when one door closes, God opens another.

Have a great weekend. Remember to take stock of all the things you can be thankful for in life. It feels good. I promise.

Nicole

Monday Afternoon Mantra- 12/8

Hello all,

I'm a bit late with this week's mantra, but better late than never! :)

"Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going." -- Jim Ryun

Have a great week, and make working towards your dreams a habit!

Nicole

What Women Care About

Curious about what matters most to women right now? The YWCA just released a study that tells us all about it. Generation Y (women aged 18 to 29) feels that civil rights and racial discrimination should be at the top of the new administration's list of priorities along with the financial crisis.

As a Generation Y-er, I agree. :)

Check out the study.

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 12/1

Morning!

Can you believe it's already December? Time for the holidays, one of my favorite times of the year! Here's a quote to keep you focused on what's most important this week:

"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful." -- Albert Schweitzer
So go forth in pursuit of happiness this week!

Nicole

Volunteering for Thanksgiving

Okay, so the lesson for yesterday was, things might not turn out exactly as you planned, but make the best of it! Per our family tradition, Donte, Nerissa, and I headed out to D.C. last night to make food for the homeless along with my good friend, Kendria. We were late (thanks, Donte), so we got there an hour and a half after the event started, but we weren't too bummed because it was supposed to last an hour longer.

To our dismay, they were packing up when we arrived.

Nerissa's eyes welled up with tears, and I got that guilty parent feeling, but I consoled her and told her that sometimes things don't work out, and we have to make the best of it. So we resolved to find another volunteer activity soon, and dined on some Mexican food! :)

There are lessons in everything, right?!?!

Have a great Thanksgiving!

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/24

Morning guys!

Here is your Monday Morning Mantra:

"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing." -- Helen Keller

Be daring and adventurous this week. That's what life is all about!

Nicole

The Soaps Are Dying? Say It Ain't So!

Today I saw a Yahoo! blog claiming that soap operas are dying, and I sighed. But the photo of my beloved "Days of Our Lives" couple John and Marlena, made my heart sink. I haven't watched an episode of "Days of Our Lives" in ages, but it's ongoing presence has always been kind of comforting to me.

My mother, my sister, and I shared a common knowledge of the show, having watched it at different points in our lives. We all knew the families and the back stories of the major couples, John and Marlena being one of them. We enjoyed the bizarre story lines (such as Marlena being possessed by the devil and John being the priest who performed her exorcism). It's just been one of those ongoing things between the women in our family - another thread weaving through our relationship.

But it seems that soaps are dying away, and I wonder what their replacement will be. I can't even keep up with the shows on TV now - "One Tree Hill," "Grey's Anatomy," and "Ugly Betty"? Just not the same.

So here's to you "Day's of Our Lives." It was fun. Sniffle, sniffle.

Nicole

Balancing Worklife & Parenting

I'm finally settled back in from my trip to San Fran and L.A., and I thought I'd share with you some of the things I covered in my session during the Summit. I facilitated a learning group on balancing work life and parenting. I'm sure many of you can relate. :)

While I allowed the ladies to swap ideas, I also gave them three tips that I share with many groups on how to breathe life into your relationships with your children:

The Power of Praise - Have you ever noticed how good you feel when someone praises you? It lifts your spirits, and it makes you want to come back for more! Sometimes we're too critical of our children, and that can have the opposite effect.

Happy Hello's - I used to pick my daughter up from daycare with a cell phone glued to my ear. I realized that this was the wrong way to greet her. I now have a rule that I end calls before heading inside to pick her up, and I always try to have a smile on my face.

Take Inventory - My mom is a really talented painter. Sometimes she gets down on herself if she feels she hasn't shown her work in enough galleries. I often remind her of all the things she's accomplished, including raising two healthy, accomplished daughters. As moms, we don't step back and look at the big picture enough. We are helping to mold and create loving, kind human beings. That's quite a feat!

I'm learning that these simple acts can do wonders for any relationship. I see the effects they have with my little Riss every day.

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/17

I'm back from San Fran, and I'm ready to start the week! Here's a quote that should carry you over the next few days. Success depends on you!

"Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing." -- Abraham Lincoln

Have a great week, guys!

Nicole

Grateful in San Fran

I arrived safely in San Francisco this afternoon (technically this evening, my time) for the Women in Leadership Summit. It's a bit foggy, damp, and chilly - not what I expected - but I've enjoyed the Starbucks and Whole Foods run we made and our good friend, Erica, is preparing a yummy pork loin dinner.

During the flight, I read an article in Real Simple Magazine about keeping a "grateful diary." Every day you write down what you're thankful for and supposedly you'll see the effects - improved self-esteem, better relationships, gaining perspective on your life. This made absolute sense to me. When I say my prayers at night, I feel better after thanking God for all of the things He has done for me throughout the day. So I'm toying with the idea of doing that in this blog each week.

Starting today.

I"m thankful for arriving safely in San Fran. Thank God!

I'm thankful for our new President!

I'm thankful for my good friend, Kendria, who is always so supportive of my work and everything in my life. She has traveled with me to San Fran, and I really think she'd travel to the ends of the earth!

I'm thankful for my daughter, Nerissa (who I'm missing terribly).

I'm thankful for having a business that allows me to write, travel, and meet new people.

I'm thankful for the Salted Caramel Hot Chocolate from Starbucks. :)

I feel better already!

Nicole

Good Housekeeping Giveaways!

Anyone subscribe to Good Housekeeping? My mom got me a subscription (I'm usually a Glamour girl), and I wasn't excited about it at first, but I love it now! I guess I've quickly settled into married life in which I'm as excited about stain removers or a new recipe as I am about a cute pair of shoes. Unbelievable.

Anyways, they always have great giveaways. Right now you can win anything from the complete Flinstone's DVD set (seriously!) to a complete kitchen remodel. Check it out!

Nicole

A Historic Moment

Last night, I did something I've never done before. I went to a rally for a presidential candidate. As soon as I got the invitation (an email from the Obama campaign), I sent it to friends and asked who was interested in going. There was little hesitation. All of us are excited about this race - excited about the potential for change.

I arrived at my friend Kendria's house at 4:45 pm (late!), and we hopped in her husband's truck. The five of us - Kendria, her husband, her brother-in-law, myself, and Nerissa (she was almost as excited as I was!) - headed down to Manassas, Va. What was supposed to be a one-hour ride turned into a three-hour ride, which included a potty-break and a run-through McDonald's for dinner. The traffic was so bad that we had to park on the sidewalk of the main road and walk almost two miles to the fairgrounds. Once we arrived, we stood in a sea of people that seemed to stretch farther than the eye could see on all sides. They announced that we were 80,000 strong. Unbelievable. It felt like a historic moment. It felt like the moments my dad describes in the 60's. It felt like we were a part of something much bigger than ourselves.

We waited another hour for Senator Obama to arrive. Various people made speeches, they played music, etc. Just when my impatience was getting the best of me, he arrived, and it was almost like a rock star walked onto the stage. The crowd exploded in cheers. Nerissa and I joined in the chant, "YES WE CAN!" It was really an awesome moment. His speech was stellar, as always.

Even though I didn't get home until 2:30 AM, and my legs were sore and feet were cold, I was thankful that I'd gone and that I'd given Nerissa a memory she'll never forget. We will be able to tell her children and my grandchildren that we were there together. Inspiring to say the least.

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/3

Good morning everyone!

I thought it would be fitting to kick off this week with a quote from Michelle Obama - a woman whom I deeply admire. This week don't let fear hinder you from doing great things. It's often the one thing that holds you back.

"You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen. We just weren’t raised that way." - Michelle Obama

Have a fearless week!

Nicole

PS - I'm off to the Obama rally in Manassas tonight! Woo-hoo!

Back from New Mexico and Fall Fun!

I'm back from New Mexico and I agree with Dorothy, "There's no place like home!" It felt so good to be back in Maryland with my fam. Traveling is great - seeing new places, meeting new people - but I love being home in my comfy socks and bombarded by Nerissa's hugs. :)

Before I left, I'd planned to show you guys some pictures of the family and I at a fall petting zoo last weekend. I didn't get around to it so I'm sharing them with you now. As you can see, we had a ball!

Make sure that you get out and enjoy the fall season. Warm apple cider, pumpkin patches, and apple picking are sure-fire ways to warm your soul!

Love,

Nicole

Who Needs a College Degree?

As you know, I'm in New Mexico this week at Healthy Teen Network's 29th annual conference. It's been non-stop since we touched down. In fact, this morning, we were frantically stuffing bags, and someone commented, "These are the times you wonder why you even got a college degree!" Here I am with a BA and a Master's so I can certainly relate.

I stumbled upon this article online and thought it was interesting. It gives you a glimpse of the 10 most popular degrees and what they're really worth. See if your degree is listed!

And here's a pic of New Mexico. I'm going to pretend that I took it myself, but in actuality, I haven't stepped foot outside of this hotel for the past three days. Typical conference. I also left my camera at home so Donte could take pictures of Riss in her costume on Friday! (My first Halloween away from my baby!!!)

Nicole

Monday Afternoon Mantra - 10/27

Hi everyone!

I'm in sunny Albuquerque, New Mexico, which is why the Monday Morning Mantra is late today. I've been traveling since 7:30 AM, and my attempts at logging on to the Internet were extremely unsuccessful. However, today's mantra is extra special and will certainly get you through your week. Your dreams may seem far off, but don't let that discourage you - it's the journey and the experience that makes it all worthwhile!

"Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead."
—Louisa May Alcott

I'll be writing from New Mexico all week as I'm here for Healthy Teen Network's 29th Annual Conference. I just missed Senator Obama, who was here yesterday. Darn!

Have a great week!

Nicole

Egrams to Break STD News???

Just got back from Massachusetts for the Massachusetts Alliance on Teen Pregnancy Conference (which was great), and I was shocked to hear about this new idea - egrams to let your partners know you've been diagnosed with an STD! All of my friends in the adolescent health field should really appreciate this.

Apparently inSpot.org has been offering the free egram service since 2004. People are telling their former partners to get tested for HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia and syphilis. The ecards apparently take the edge off of that uncomfortable phone call or face-to-face conversation, and experts say that it might be more effective in getting people into treatment.

I'm definitely one for doing whatever works, and I see how the egrams can be more effective, but I can't imagine the shock/fear/embarassment of getting one of these things. Yikes!

Have a great weekend!

Off to the MAOTP Conference!

Tomorrow I leave for the Massachusetts Alliance on Teen Pregnancy Conference where I'll be giving the keynote. I'm really looking forward to the event because MAOTP is doing some great work for youth, and I'm originally from up North (I was born in Stamford, CT and lived in Massachusetts until I was 12). I always enjoy going back up to New England, especially in the Fall!

I wanted to share with you the video I'll be showing to the group because it's so awesome and powerful. There are so many lessons in this story - it's just amazing. Please check it out, and I promise you will be inspired!

'Til I return!

Nicole

"Green Jobs"?

The "green" craze is everywhere, and it's a good thing. I've even started to make the switch to energy-efficient light bulbs, and I can't wait for our new recycling bin to be delivered within the next few weeks (sad but true)! I'm also trying to convince my husband to buy green cleaning products from now on because they do the job just as well.

So I was excited to hear about "green jobs," which are basically jobs that would result from the switch to alternative energy sources like wind, solar, biomass, and other fuels. I'd thought so much about the positive effects this would have on the environment, but not really the economy. California is a great example of the potential - by investing in energy efficiency, they've created 1.5 million jobs and increased payrolls by $45 billion.

Exciting stuff. I'm thinking about ways NicoleInk can get in on this action!

For energy-saving ideas, click here!

Monday Morning Mantra - 10/20

This quote will set the the tone for your entire week. The lesson here is, don't play it safe. Do the daring and risky things when it comes to achieving your dreams!

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. " -- Mark Twain

No regrets!

Have an awesome week!

Nicole

Gotta Goal? Write it Down

One of the biggest challenges we face when working toward a goal is that we're not clear about it. Often we have a vague idea of what we want (i.e. "I want to be a success" instead of "I want a fulfilling job."). What better way to nail down exactly what you want than putting it on paper?

I do this by keeping a monthly planner. Yes, I haven't made the switch to modern-day technology, ok!? I write all of my daily goals in my planner, and it helps me gradually work my way to the big ones. It really works!

Take out a notepad and write down your goal. Be clear, specific, and real. Make sure it's something you can sink your teeth into - make it tangible. Once you've clearly identified it, don't stop there. Put the piece of paper in a place where you'll see it often. For instance, in your daily planner, on a bulletin board in your office, or on your fridge.

You'll be one step closer to getting exactly what you want!

Nicole

Tuesday Morning Mantra - 10/14

Okay, so today is technically my Monday since I had yesterday off. I hope all of you did as well since we all need a break! If not, please forgive me for posting the Monday Morning Mantra on Tuesday!

"When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will
turn." ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe

Have a great week!

Nicole

Tip for Getting Energized

These economic times are reason enough to find yourself feeling down in the dumps. Folks are losing their jobs, paying too much for gas, and watching their grocery bills go sky high. If you're looking for a pick-me-up, here's a great one: try something new.

There is no better way to get the excitement juices flowing than trying something that you've never done before. It can be crazy and adventurous - like sky-diving, bungee jumping or roller coasters - or it can be as simple as reading a book by an author you've never heard of or walking barefoot in the grass. The thrill of the unknown will make you more aware that the whole world is open to you and there are tons of things to try and do!

I'm taking some of my own advice and going on an evening tour of the Eastern State Penitentiary. Anyone who knows me knows I spook easily, but Donte and I are celebrating our one-year wedding anniversary this weekend, and what could be more romantic???!?!?

Have a great weekend, guys!

Nicole

Housewives - My Guilty Pleasure!

Am I the only one who loves Bravo's series The Real Housewives of...? I couldn't get enough of The Housewives of Orange County, and I watched a little bit of the NYC version. Well, they're coming out with an Atlanta show, and it debuts tonight! I've read about each character, and I'm not sure if I'm going to be as into this one, but it's worth checking out!

The title of the show is a bit misleading since many of the woman featured on all versions have their own booming businesses. It's really great to see them flourishing in real estate, fashion, nutrition, etc. Sometimes, you may learn a thing or two from them that you can apply in your own pursuits. Now don't get me wrong, there are also those wives who don't do much of anything and can come across as snooty and lazy. They often provide the best drama of the show.

Things can't be serious all the time, can they? :)

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 10/06

Hi guys! Sorry the Monday Morning Mantra is late this morning, but it's a great one! ;)

"Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm." -- Sir Winston Churchill

I wish you much success this week!

Nicole

Leading With Kindness

I recently heard about Leading With Kindness, a book by William F. Baker and Michael O'Malley on effective leadership. It's something we all know deep down inside, but Corporate America doesn't really emphasize or encourage - kindness is the most effective leadership tool!

If you're a manager, CEO, or supervisor, or if you're in any leadership position, please find out more information, including practical tips, by clicking here.

Kindly,

Nicole

Congrats to Kendra Pierce!

Kendra Pierce has won an Elizabeth Arden gift card from NicoleInk! Her name was entered into our drawing with many others who signed up for The NicoleInk Newsletter (your monthly dose of motivation!).

Congrats, Kendra!

Stay tuned for more NicoleInk giveaways! You could be next!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra 09/29

Wake up, everyone! It's a beautiful Monday morning and there's lots to be done this week. Here's a mantra that will keep you on your toes:

"There is no happiness except in the realization that we have accomplished something." --Henry Ford

Here's to happiness!

Nicole

The Baltimore Book Festival

Yesterday I had a great time at The Baltimore Book Festival. It was a wonderful location with delicious food, and we met some really interesting people. Unfortunately, it rained all day - and when I say "rained," I mean RAINED, POURED, and STORMED! Despite the awful weather, we sold and signed books, talked to people about speaking engagements, and met some really talented authors. I would definitely recommend the event to other authors, folks in the publishing industry, and locals who want to check out great books.

I also have to tell you that I ate a delicious crab melt gyro for lunch at the tent beside us. I can't remember the name of the restaurant, but it was delish! I'll have to track them down!

Special, special, special thanks to Kendria and Meron who braved the wet weather to promote Glori and NicoleInk. Also, a special thanks to everyone who stopped by the tent, including my good friends Kia, Katrina, and Tamika. You guys are great!

Nicole

PS: You can still get a copy of Glori even if you missed the event. Click here!

A Debate Party?

Sounds like an oxymoron doesn't it? "Debate" and "party" don't normally go together, but all week I've been getting emails that encourage me to attend a presidential debate party in my area. To be honest, I would never have considered this in previous elections. The excitement for a party just wasn't there. But this year, I'm on the edge of my seat to hear Obama and McCain talk about the economy, foreign affairs, and other important issues that affect us each and every day.

Hopefully, the debate will actually take place. At this point, it's still in limbo as McCain doesn't want to participate unless an agreement has been reached in the bail-out situation.

Ugh... If it does, I'll be having my own debate party at the house tonight with my family. Nothing fancy - just sitting on the couch with my favorite blanket and maybe a bowl of popcorn. Get informed about your candidate. Exercising your right to vote is the simplest way to change your world!

Don't miss it: Presidential Debate - 9PM EST

Five Great Inspirational Movies

Many of you know that I've been taking care of my mom for the past few weeks, and I've never watched so many movies in my life! Some have been good, and some have been plain old horrible, but the best ones made me realize that watching a good movie can inspire us in our real-life challenges. Here are five inspirational movies:

1. The Bucket List
2. My Life
3. Remember the Titans
4. The Pursuit of Happyness
5. Lord of the Rings (yes, even Lord of the Rings!)

Let me know if you have any to add to the list!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra 09/22/08

Happy Monday, guys! This quote definitely inspires me to wake up and have a great week! Make it happen!

"The best way to predict the future is to invent it." -- Alan Kaye

Nicole :)

Why It Feels Good to Support the WNBA

A couple weeks ago, Donté and I took Nerissa to a Washington Mystics game. Nerissa has been playing basketball for the past few years, and we wanted her to see where she could take her skills if she really applies herself. Going to her practices and cheering at her games has given me such an appreciation for sports. Watching the Mystics that Friday night gave me a new found appreciation for female athletes!

I sat there realizing that the WNBA is such an accomplishment for all women. It says a lot about our resilience, our power, and our determination. It proves that we have what it takes to perform at the highest levels, just as men do. I remember a time when there was no WNBA. That night, I looked at Nerissa cheering and shouting, and I was thankful that she won't be able to remember a time when there wasn't a WNBA. Sitting behind us, there was a group of women wearing Mystics shirts and holding Mystics cups. They shouted at their favorite players and talked about the season. These were hardcore fans. I thought, I need to go to more of these games!

If you're not that into sports, don't worry, neither am I. I watch the occasional Redskins game with my husband and I like the Washington Wizards. But here's a really good reason to check out your local WNBA team - it will make you feel good. Promise!

Nicole

Handbag Giveaway!

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9/11: A Reason To Be Inspired

Every year September 11th reminds us of an unbelievable tragedy. It's one of those moments in history when you can remember exactly where you were when it happened. I was a sophomore in college sitting in my early morning Education class. One of the students was called out of the classroom. When she returned, she was in tears. Those were my first signs of what would be a horrible day for all Americans.

What is so encouraging about the anniversary of 9/11 is that every year we learn more about the survivors and the courageous family and friends of those who didn't make it. Women who have had to say goodbye to their husbands. Children who will never know their mothers. Co-workers whose lives are forever changed by a senseless loss. It inspires me so much because these are just ordinary people who have had to endure and overcome an extraordinary thing.

I thought I'd compile just some of their words to encourage you in whatever challenge you might be facing today:

“Anybody who knew me wanted to reach out and comfort me, so I think part of it is remembering how we comforted each other after that day.” -- Pentagon Memorial Fund manager Jim Laychak on the special tribute

“Until we meet again may God hold you in the palm of his hands.” -- A woman speaking to her husband, Chuck, during a Ground Zero ceremony in New York.

"I try to think about being thankful to be alive, to treat people better, to not get as angry with my kids. I'm not sure yet if I've been successful." -- Michael Otten was an assistant vice president at Mizuho Capital Markets Corp., working on the 80th floor of the SouthTower on Sept. 11, 2001

"I remember talking to one of the firefighters about a lady having trouble getting down from a couple floors above. He said, 'Don't worry, sir. We've got it covered,'" in the most calm and collected voice I ever heard that September morning." -- Don Basco, worked on the 57th floor of the North Tower

Wishing you love and blessings,

Nicole

Michelle Obama Dances on Ellen! Now That's My Kind of First Lady!

Michelle Obama made an appearance on The Ellen DeGeneres Show earlier this week and impressed the audience with her dance moves. She put her husband's dancing during his visit last year to shame!

Not only do I love this lady for being such a strong woman in every way, she also knows how to have a good time! If you're not having fun doing what you do, how can you expect anyone else to????

Lance Armstrong Comes Out of Retirement

I was so glad to read that Lance Armstrong is coming out of retirement to try for his 8th Tour de France win. Armstrong inspired us all by winning seven consecutive Tours despite his testicular cancer diagnosis in 1996. His new challenge will be winning the Tour despite his "old age" (by biking standards). He will be 37-years-old next week.

Armstrong's tendency to take the challenges in his life head-on shows that nothing is too big to tackle in our lives. The things we might perceive as our downfall - cancer, old age, tremendous odds - may be the very things we need to take us to the next level. Because of his perseverance, Armstrong has become a voice for more cancer research funding, a major American icon, and a philanthropist through his Lance Armstrong Foundation.

Take notes guys!

Click here to read about Armstrong's comeback.

Palin Teen Pregnancy Controversy

Last Friday, Republican presidential nominee John McCain announced his V.P. pick, Governor Sarah Palin of Alaska. And over the weekend the buzz of a virtually unknown female vice presidential candidate heightened with the news that her 17-year-old daughter is currently five months pregnant.

Once again, the issue of teenage pregnancy has been thrust into the limelight with another high-profile case. Just as the frenzy over Jamie Lynn Spears had died down, Bristol Palin's saga is just beginning.

On Tuesday, I was contacted by The Baltimore Sun for an article they were doing on the controversy. During the interview, I made three main points:

1. I wasn't altogether shocked by the news that Bristol Palin is expecting. After all, I know first-hand that teen pregnancy is not reserved for a certain group of people, a socio-economic class, or a geographic region. It's far too complex for that. It can happen to anyone, anywhere. From Hollywood to Alaska to Virginia Beach, Va. The sooner we accept this and stop making it "their" problem, the sooner we can really make progress in preventing teenage pregnancy and helping young families get on their feet.

2. Which brings me to my second point. We need more support for pregnant and parenting teens! While many people rally behind prevention efforts, there is so little support or funding for helping young mothers get an education, become financially stable, etc. I'm not sure what we're afraid of. Helping young families will not increase the number of pregnancies in teens. Instead it will break the cycles of poverty and teen pregnancy that plague so many families, and it will help the children of these young mothers. It will give them a better chance in life. How can we not support that?

3. Lastly, I hope that Bristol Palin's decision to marry the father of her child is not being forced upon her. I don't believe that marrying for the sake of a baby is the right decision. I joked with the reporter about what the divorce rate would be if we all married the people we were dating when we were 17. Scary thought, isn't it?! Marriage is such an important and sacred thing. Even when two people love each other to death it requires hard work. Everyone suffers - including the child - in an unhappy union.

Bristol Palin is in a good situation. Fortunately, she will not have to "pull herself up by her bootstraps." She has the support of the Palin family, which means she will fare far better than the majority of young girls who find themselves in this situation. I'm hoping that instead of just talking about teen pregnancy, this situation will prompt us to actually do something. Let's look at it differently and stop treating young mothers like pariahs. Governor Palin has recognized that her daughter can't do this alone. She needs help during this difficult time. Don't all young women deserve the same?

To read The Baltimore Sun article, please click here.

Wishing you love and blessings,

Nicole

Where is Nicole?

Hey everyone,

I apologize for my lapse in posting. I'm still getting used to this blogging thing! I've also been very busy working on a second book (yes - it's finally underway!), and scheduling a ton of speaking engagements. So check the "Upcoming Events" page on my website to see when I'll be in a town near you!

There are a lot of really exciting things happening with NicoleInk. Very soon you'll be seeing more products and events geared toward helping you make positive changes in your life and business. And everything is based on feedback I've been getting from YOU. I always want to make sure NicoleInk products are need-based.

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Wishing you love and blessings!

Nicole

The Anniversary of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.'s Death: A Message for Today

This morning, as I drove Nerissa to school, the voice of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. filled the car and overpowered the conversation. His "I've Been to the Mountaintop" speech, which he gave in support of the striking sanitation workers at Mason Temple in Memphis, TN on April 3, 1968 — the day before he was assassinated, was so clear and fresh, it sounded like he could have been in front of a large crowd somewhere at that very moment. And the things he discussed - a dangerous world, threats to individual freedom, war and poverty - are issues that plaster the front pages of newspapers and are featured on the evening news even today.

The Washington Post published an article today that talks about this very thing. The times change. The heroes fall, but somehow what they fought for is still there in various forms. Yes, Dr. King fought for love and equality, but he also very much opposed the Vietnam War and championed the rights of low-income and impoverished people. My daughter believes that all of Dr. King's dreams were realized because she is able to sit next to children of various races in her classroom, but the reality is, he had many dreams for a better world. While that particular dream has come true, many others are still far from reality.

Today reminded me that I need to teach Riss about all of the things Dr. King fought for. It also reminded me that those fights are still being fought. We have a war going on that is taking precious lives. We have people living in deep poverty right in our own cities. We have inequalities -- while not always as obvious -- that still translate into horrible circumstances for various groups of people, such as women, homosexuals, African Americans, Native Americans, and many other minorities.

To read Dr. King's final speech, please click on the link below. His words are haunting and powerful in light of the fact that he left this earth the very next day. His closing remarks are as follows:

"Well, I don't know what will happen now. We've got some difficult days ahead. But it doesn't matter with me now. Because I've been to the mountaintop. And I don't mind. Like anybody, I would like to live a long life. Longevity has its place. But I'm not concerned about that now. I just want to do God's will. And He's allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I've looked over. And I've seen the promised land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people, will get to the promised land. And I'm happy, tonight. I'm not worried about anything. I'm not fearing any man. Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord."

http://www.afscme.org/about/1549.cfm

I don't know about you, but I'm inspired.

Love you guys.

Scary Stats on Teens and Infectious Diseases

Okay girls. I've talked to you about achieving your goals, avoiding unhealthy relationships, how to get money for college and other very important things, but here's one that is of the UTMOST importance. Respect and love your bodies. Abstain from sex. Protect yourselves. And that goes for my teen mothers too.

The first national study - a part of the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey - on four of the most common sexual diseases revealed statistics that are shocking. Nearly fifty-percent of African American girls ages 14-19 are infected with one of the four most common STD's; human papillomavirus (HPV, which can cause cervical cancer), chlamydia, genital herpes, and trichomoniasis (a parasite). The report found that twenty percent of Caucasian girls are infected with at least one of these diseases. And among all infected women ages 14-19, fifteen percent had more than one disease. Looking at the larger picture, about 3.2 million teenage girls are infected with at least one of the diseases.

I know people tell you all sorts of things like "If he loves you, he'll wait" and "You're worth waiting for," and they're all true. Very true. But obviously, they're not sinking in. How about this? BE DIFFERENT. If nothing else encourages you to protect yourself, how about being different? Too many girls are giving in to sex and the things that guys are telling them, and they're putting their health and their futures at risk. By saying no, you're standing out from all the rest, and I guarantee you that guys will respect you for it. You want to be a different story.

And if you have a child already, that doesn't mean that you're "damaged goods." Your body is always your temple, and saying no to sex says a lot about you as a strong mother and woman.

At the very least, please protect yourselves, ladies.

I believe we can all defy the statistics whether they be statistics about teen mothers not amounting to anything, teenagers on the road to nowhere, or too many young girls walking around with serious STD's.

BE DIFFERENT.

To read more about this study, please click here.

Love you guys.

Saw "Juno"!

When I saw the previews for "Juno," I realized it wasn't just a movie I wanted to see, but a movie I HAD to see. "Juno" is the story of a young woman who gets pregnant during her junior year in high school. What follows is her 9-month journey, which includes all of the ups and downs of an unexpected pregnancy as well as a few shockers.

Juno (Ellen Page) was refreshing for so many reasons. She is not helpless and dim-witted like teens are so often portrayed. Instead, she's a witty, smart and strong-willed young woman who doesn't really care what people think. Similarly refreshing was her relationship with the father of her child, a nerdy but sweet guy named Bleeker (Michael Cera of "Super Bad"). Although their relationship isn't clearly defined, at its foundation is a loving friendship that endures everything.

The movie made me think about my own experience - taking several pregnancy tests because I just couldn't believe the results (Juno does the same after downing an entire jug of "Sunny D") and being freaked out by the idea of abortion. It also made me laugh, which is something most people don't associate with teen pregnancy. Laughter. My experience has taught me that even out of the most tragic moments in life, you can find laughter and hope. I'm glad this movie echoes that.

In the end, Juno decides to give her baby up for adoption. Because of my own experience, I talk a lot about keeping the baby and raising it yourself. "Juno" shows an alternative, which can also be very difficult. What a noble decision it is to give your baby to a family who can't conceive.

Ultimately, "Juno" proves that teen pregnancy isn't a black and white issue. It doesn't just happen to "certain people" with "certain circumstances," and the outcomes vary. What is most important, however, is the need to love and support each other no matter what our circumstances and our decisions. That's the biggest lesson in "Juno," and one I am thankful for.