Nicole Lynn Lewis

Monday Morning Mantra - 12/20

2010-12-23T14:47:00.000-08:00

Hi guys!

OK, it's not Monday, but I was out Christmas shopping, and I lost track of time. Seriously, did Christmas come waaaaay too fast this year or is it just me?!

This week's Mantra has nothing to do with hard work. It's all about enjoying yourself! Try it out!

Patty: Try to catch snowflakes on your tongue. It's fun.
Linus Van Pelt: Mmm. Needs sugar.
Lucy Van Pelt: It's too early. I never eat December snowflakes. I always wait until January.
Linus Van Pelt: They sure look ripe to me.

-- A Charlie Brown Christmas (1965)

Happy holidays!!!!

This week, enjoy! Taste the snowflakes! :)

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Have a great week!

- Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/29

2010-11-30T20:44:00.000-08:00

Hey there!

A good friend of mine is leaving tomorrow for the Dominican Republic. I keep thinking about how she'll be on the beach while I'm in D.C. FREEZING!

Anyhoo, here's our Mantra for the week from a very classy lady - Coco Chanel!

"In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different."

-- Coco Chanel

Sometimes we're afraid to be different or to go against the grain. I love this quote because it emphasizes how being different indeed makes us special and unforgettable. Don't be afraid to step out there and do your thing. There's no one like you. So show it.

This week, be different.

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Have a great week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/22

2010-11-23T13:12:00.000-08:00

Hey there!

I hope you're preparing for a relaxing Thanksgiving holiday! I'm definitely excited about kicking back. Remember, reflecting on all of your blessings and accomplishments is vital to keeping things in perspective. Speaking of keeping things in perspective, check out our Mantra for the week below.

"I don't dwell on success. Maybe that's one reason I'm successful." -- Calvin Klein

I know I'm constantly talking to you about success, but that's not necessarily what we should be dwelling on, is it? We should really be focused on doing what makes us happy, making a difference, and living out our dreams. I like what Calvin Klein says here because he isn't really concerned with success. He's pursuing a passion, and success happened along the way.

This week, don't strive for success. Strive for happiness and fulfillment.

Check out my chapter on the real meaning of success in my new book, The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want!

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Have an awesome week and enjoy your Thanksgiving holiday!!!!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/15

2010-11-15T03:19:00.000-08:00

Good morning, guys!

I am exhausted today from taking care of a sick baby and throwing myself into housework over the weekend. I feel productive, but I'm definitely going to grab a cup of coffee!

Anyhoo, here's our Mantra for the week:

"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow." -- Albert Einstein

This week's Mantra is really about attitude. Having the right attitude about your past, your present, and your future can greatly impact your ability to succeed.

This week, ask yourself whether or not you've had the right attitude about your past, present, and future. Are you as positive as Einstein tells us we should be?

Check out my "yesterday, today, and tomorrow" strategy in the new book, The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want!

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Have a great week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/01

2010-11-04T16:46:00.000-07:00

I can't even believe it's been a month since I've posted to this blog! I have been completely swamped with Generation Hope stuff - all good stuff though, I promise. We are launching an organization and that takes... well... a lot of work! So please forgive me for my absence!

This week's Mantra is on a topic that I speak and write about all of the time. There are certain things that we think are impossible to achieve, and that way of thinking often holds us back from doing great things. What if we completely change our way of thinking?

"It's kind of fun to do the impossible."

--Walt Disney

I often think about how the Disney Company began with one man's dream. It's amazing. An entire empire has been built around what others probably thought was useless fantasizing. This inspires me to dream big and to never listen to those who doubt my abilities. Plus, seeing the impossible happen is fun!

This week, have fun making one of your "impossibles" come to life. (There's a whole chapter in my new book, The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want, on "The Imposssibles." Check it out!)

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Have an FUN week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 10/04

2010-10-06T18:12:00.000-07:00

I just tweeted the following: "if i'm not laughing, something's wrong. enjoy what you do."

I really mean that, my friends. I try to find humor in any situation -- including my work. Just because you're working hard to finish that project, make those good grades, or get that promotion doesn't mean you can't have fun. We spend so much time working that we do ourselves (and those around us!) a disservice when we don't even crack a smile.

"If you could choose one characteristic that would get you through life, choose a sense of humor."

-- Jennifer Jones

I firmly believe that we should be able to laugh in any situation. Laughter has healing powers. It can immediately lift your spirits and the spirits of others.

This week, try to laugh heartily every day - no matter what is happening around you. See how great you feel at the end of the week.

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Enjoy the rest of your week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 09/27

2010-09-27T18:26:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday, guys!

Computer issues have kept me from posting, and I've missed you! I've been toiling away preparing for Generation Hope's first board meeting, which took place on Saturday, and was a true success! I've also been booking some speaking engagements for 2011. A lot is going on!

I thought this week's Mantra should focus on friendship since it's so important to our journeys. I always love Oprah's pearls of wisdom.

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."

-- Oprah Winfrey

Our success in life is greatly influenced by the people we surround ourselves with. Friends are such an important factor in our day-to-day mind set.

This week, think about which of your friends will ride with you when the limo breaks down, and take steps to distance yourself from those who won't.

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Have an outstanding week full of authentic friendship!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 08/23

2010-08-23T18:13:00.000-07:00

Hey everyone!

It's Mondaaaaaaaaaay! This past weekend I celebrated my youngest daughter's first birthday with a nice barbecue in the park. We invited family and friends, and although it was sweltering hot, we had a blast. It was one of those special afternoons in which you feel surrounded by so much love.

So I thought this week's Mantra could be about nurturing our relationships - making sure we're treating our loved ones the way they deserve to be treated. We want to have successful relationships in addition to great careers, thriving businesses, etc., right?

"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."

-- Dr. Joyce Brothers

Loving the right way - the way that Dr. Brothers talks about above - is so important as we strive to lead full lives.

This week, think about your relationships with family and friends and ask yourself if you're loving openly and without manipulation.

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Have an awesome week!

Nicole

Monday Mantra - 08/16

2010-08-16T09:33:00.000-07:00

Hey there!

It's a brand new week, and a brand new opportunity to get what you want out of life!

You and I are overachievers, and we want to have all of the answers, but guess what - that's not humanly possible! So this week's Mantra reminds us that not knowing everything is what makes life a journey:

"Life will reveal answers at the pace life wishes to do so. You feel like running, but life is on a stroll. This is how God does things." -- Donald Miller

We're not supposed to have all of the answers. If we did, life would be extremely boring. :)

This week, take comfort in the fact that we're explorers - find things out as we go. Don't stress yourself out about being in the dark at times. Enjoy the "stroll."

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Have an outstanding week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 08/09

2010-08-09T19:05:00.000-07:00

Welcome to a new week!

I hope you've been staying cool in these crazy hot days! I can't believe I've only made it to the pool twice this summer!

I came up with this week's Mantra after of an awesome experience I had last week with a woman by the name of Kelly Bouchard, president of Bouchard International, a company dedicated to helping people create their own success stories and get the most out of life. She took the time to speak with me, and she believed in me when she didn't have to. It made me think of what an awesome gift that is. We should all be doing something for someone else - constantly giving back.

"Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light."

-- Norman B. Rice

You have the power to help someone else. Use it. An important part of achieving success is helping others achieve it as well.

This week, reach out your hand to someone who needs your help, whether it's a friend, a co-worker, or a perfect stranger.

Check out how we're helping people with Generation Hope!

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Have an amazing week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 08/02

2010-08-02T09:03:00.000-07:00

Good morning all!

It's another Monday, which means another opportunity to do great things for the week ahead! Today I am dropping my oldest daughter off at basketball camp - an important part of working toward her hoop dreams! This reminds me that none of us should be afraid to DREAM BIG! So here's our Mantra for the week:

"Hitch your wagon to a star."

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

No dream is too big, far-fetched, or grand. You can achieve anything you put your mind to. Successful people believe in the impossible!

This week, "hitch your wagon to a star" and have confidence in your wildest dreams!

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Have an incredible week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra 07/26 (Okay, this is really bad!)

2010-07-29T18:29:00.000-07:00

I'm looking for the thief who is stealing my time! Have you seen him!? :)

Somehow this week completely slipped by me, and I can't believe I'm posting about our Mantra for the week on Thursday. Yikes! This is a good time to mention that if you're on our e-mail list, you'll receive our Mantras every Monday morning in your Inbox - no matter what! (Sign up here)

Even though it's a bit late, our Mantra this week from J-Lo reminds us that our effort is directly proportionate to our returns:

"You get what you give. What you put into things is what you get out of them." -- Jennifer Lopez

We all want things in life, but few people are willing to work hard for them. If you're frustrated about not getting very far in terms of reaching your dreams, could it be because you're not putting very much work in?

I hope this Mantra gives your Friday a boost! ;)

Have an awesome weekend!

Nicole

Monday (Tuesday) Morning Mantra - 07/19

2010-07-20T18:24:00.000-07:00

Computer problems and not enough hours in the day prevented me from posting about our Mantra for the week yesterday. So sorry! Please find below our inspiration for the week from singer Taylor Swift, whom I really like (and so does my daughter!).

"No matter what happens in life, be good to people. Being good to people is a wonderful legacy to leave behind."

-- Taylor Swift

There will be good days and there will be bad days, but no matter what's happening around you, be good to people. Don't let your circumstances cause you to treat people poorly. You will leave behind an amazing legacy when you shine brightly despite the darkest circumstances.

This week, make an effort to treat people kindly no matter what.

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Have a fantastic week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 07/12

2010-07-12T18:00:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday!

Monday marks a new opportunity to do great things. You have a whole week ahead of you to make strides in reaching your goals. How awesome is that?!

So this week we're concentrating on living dangerously - okay not riding motorcycles without helmets or eating exotic foods. We're talking about not playing it safe. Check it out:

"The person who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore." -- Dale Carnegie

Are you on the "sure-thing boat" when it comes to doing things in life? Are you willing to dare and push the envelope? The most fulfilling and rewarding experiences are those that you never thought possible.

This week, identify something you never thought you'd be able to do and take the first step toward making it happen. "

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Take advantage of every day this week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 07/05

2010-07-05T15:40:00.000-07:00

Happy Fourth of July! Many of you are probably off of work today, but we all need some inspiration to get us through the rest of the week! :)

Today's Mantra is from NBA-great Shaquille O'Neal who probably knows a thing or two about goal achievement and discipline!

"Excellence is not a singular act, but a habit. You are what you repeatedly do." -- Shaquille O'Neal

We often live in denial about our habits. We say we're a studious person, but we rarely study. We say we're kind and loving, but we have a habit of yelling at people. We say we're on our way to achieving our goal, but we don't work very hard at it each day. Your daily actions say a lot about who you are.

This week, ask yourself if your daily habits are in line with the person you want to be and the goals you're trying the achieve.

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Have an outstanding week!

Nicole

Fear Busting Tips From You

2010-07-01T08:41:00.000-07:00

Last week I sent out our June newsletter "The Worst Four Letter Word," and we got a great response from people since it discussed a topic we can all relate to: FEAR (get your mind out of the gutter!). In addition to talking about what fear can do to our lives, I asked readers to send me their fear-busting tips, and here's a great one that I received:

"One way I overcome my fear is to Just Do It in fear. Joyce Meyer talks about doing it in fear in her book [The] Confident Woman." -- Kenyari Guy www.wehope.org

I love the idea of pushing through the fear to accomplish something. Even if you're afraid, do it anyways!

I haven't read this book, but I plan to. Here's a link to it on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Confident-Woman-Living-Boldly-Without/dp/0446531987

Thanks for checking out the newsletter, and keep your tips coming! If you have any other fear-busting tips, post them below!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 06/28

2010-06-29T08:50:00.000-07:00

So sorry I didn't post our Mantra yesterday! I took my mom to a doctor's appointment that lasted all day, and then I rushed out to a meeting for Generation Hope. Busy day!

But I really wanted to post this week's Mantra because it resonates with me so much. We've talked about the unhealthy pursuit of perfection in the past (don't even get me started on how damaging the quest to be perfect can be), and this weekend I thought a lot about mistakes. While they can take us down some dark paths, in the end, they should be opportunities for growth. So this week lets think about that with a quote from writer James Joyce:

"A man's errors are his portals of discovery."

-- James Joyce

Everyone makes mistakes. Life is about falling down, but it's also about getting up. In every misstep, there is a lesson to be learned.

This week, look at your recent mistakes and think about the lessons you've learned from them. Make efforts to apply those lessons to your life from this day forward.

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Hope you're having a GREAT week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 06/21

2010-06-21T08:16:00.000-07:00

Good morning, guys!

I hope you had a great Father's day celebrating the dads in your life! I feel really blessed to be able to celebrate my father, my husband, and my father-in-law - all of whom are great examples for my girls! :)

I found the following quote from Melissa Etheridge when reading Good Housekeeping. She is talking about a realization she had after her breast cancer diagnosis. I think it's a great way to live life.

"I [realized] there are only two things in our reality, love and fear. I try to make my choices out of love."

-- Melissa Etheridge

Do you often feel like you're making decisions in life out of fear? I wonder if your choices are truly satisfying. Are you staying at your boring job because you're afraid to apply for something new? Are you afraid of being alone so you're stuck in an unloving relationship? Are you afraid of telling a friend how you really feel even though your honesty might help him?

This week, make decisions out of love not fear.

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Have an amazing week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 06/07

2010-06-07T07:21:00.000-07:00

Good morning all!

Wow, to say that this weekend was great would be an understatement. I celebrated the release of my new book on Saturday, and although I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off the whole day, it was a special evening. I'm so thankful for all of the love and support I have!

One of the best feelings in the world is having the freedom to be yourself. I've been basking in that feeling lately so I thought our Mantra this week should be all about that:

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Dr. Seuss

I love this quote because it's all about feeling comfortable in your own skin and letting your wonderful personality shine!

This week, don't let your fears about what other people think keep you from being who you are.

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Have an awesome week!

Nicole

The Book Release Party!

2010-06-06T19:55:00.000-07:00

Yesterday we celebrated the release of my new book The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want at the Youth Dreamers Youth Center in Baltimore and let me just say it was an awesome feeling. Here are my top three reasons why:

3) Seeing the new book in the hands of people I know and love and being so excited about all of the things it will help them achieve;

2) Feeling the love and support of so many people who were at the event and those who sent well wishes from afar;

1) And knowing my two daughters, Nerissa and Naya, were there to see that Mommy is reaching for the stars and doing what she loves. I want them to know that there's no limit to what they can do!

It's a little strange to know that I have two books under my belt now. I'm so used to talking about Glori that I'll have to remind myself that I have multiple titles! Someone asked me last night if I plan to write more books. As long as God puts the words on my heart, I'll be writing. We'll see what's next!

Thanks for all of your support, guys!

Nicole

A Note From a Reader

2010-06-04T06:32:00.000-07:00

Every now and then I get an email from a reader that totally reminds me of why my work is so important. In the day-to-day shuffle, it's easy for me to wonder, "Is anybody out there?!" So these emails really encourage me! I thought I'd share one I received this week with you guys.

Hi Mrs. Nicole, my name is Nadia Martin, I met [you] at a teen parent conference in Houston, Texas. First off I just want to say thank you for writing this book, your story had made my own situation not seem so bad. I have a two year old son, named Thaddeus, III. I'm 18 years old and I will be graduating high school on June 5th, with honors in English. Just writing these words are so surreal, there were many times I just knew u would not be graduating, let alone with honors in English. Just Reading your book shows me the passion you have for helpings girls like me; I mean I can feel your heart bring poured out on every page. This book made me cry, laugh and most importantly think, think about how far I am willing to go without making excuses. I got my acceptance letter from Houston Baptist University in march, and my eyes filled with tears of joy, but for some reason I still doubted myself and if I would be able to make it through college, but now I know I can, because I've seen how far God has brought you. I know God didn't bring me this far to leave me, and I again I thank you for reaching out to girls like me.

Love,

Nadia
"I'm still standing"

Thanks for all of your emails and for making me feel like Glori truly is doing great things. :)

Have an awesome weekend!

Nicole

Monday (Tuesday) Morning Mantra - 06/01

2010-06-01T13:18:00.000-07:00

So yes, today is actually Tuesday, but for many of us, it's the start of the week since yesterday was Memorial Day. In between enjoying the great weather and munching on bbq ribs, I forgot to send the Mantra yesterday. Please forgive me!

But I promise this one is worth the wait. It's from me! I don't often quote myself, but I thought this was a good Mantra for the week since I'm celebrating the release of my new book on Saturday, and it touches on something that many of us forget to do - celebrate our accomplishments!

"If you don't take a moment to think about all of the great things you've done, you'll overlook them, and the things you want to do will seem more difficult. "

-- Nicole Lynn Lewis

It's so important to Stop, Reflect, and Celebrate as you work toward your goals.

This week, stop and think about all of the things you've recently accomplished and CELEBRATE! Throw yourself a party. Go out dancing. Or buy yourself a treat. Celebrate YOU.

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Have an awesome week!

Nicole

PS - I cover this concept of celebrating our accomplishments in Chapter 7 of the new book!

Teen Pregnancy Prevention Beyond May

2010-05-27T08:34:00.000-07:00

As a former teen mom, one of the questions I'm always asked is how do we prevent teen pregnancy. Now that my oldest daughter is 11-years-old, it's a question that is at the forefront of my mind as well. My answer has less to do with the debate over comprehensive vs. abstinence based sex education in schools and more to do with strengthening family bonds at home.

My own experience coupled with the conversations I've had with teens all over the country is that the biggest influence on sexual behavior is the health and communication of the family. If things are bad at home, the risk for teen pregnancy goes up. "Bad" can mean something as extreme as molestation or an alcoholic parent to something as commonplace as not enough quality time spent together as a family and broken lines of communication between a father and daughter.

In addition to the overall health of the family, communication about sex and relationships needs to start at an early age and it needs to be real, age-appropriate, and non-judgmental. It's never too late to start an open dialog about sex in your home.

Kids don't come with manuals. Navigating parenting is difficult, so I recommend getting some resources in your hands. Here are some great resources on parenting in general and talking about sex with your children that will take teen pregnancy prevention beyond the month of May:

General healthy family information:

FamilyLife (a Christian organization that helps marriages and families thrive)

Parenting.org (a site developed by the Boys Club)
Medline Plus parenting resources

Talking to Your Kids about Sex:

Resources for parents from The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy

Resources for parents from Answer

Preparing Your Daughter for Every Woman's Battle by Shannon Ethridge (a book I'm reading now with a realistic Christian perspective)

There are a bunch of resources out there. Go to your local bookstore and see what you can find! If you're interested in my story, please click here.

Happy parenting!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 05/24

2010-05-24T08:02:00.000-07:00

Good Monday to you!

This week's Mantra is for all of you out there who have a goal or a dream, but you aren't pursuing it:

"A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what he wants to do. " -- Bob Dylan

Success really isn't about money. It's about doing the things in life that make you the most fulfilled. If you aspire to be successful, pursue your passion! For me, that's writing and speaking - inspiring people - and it's my new nonprofit organization, Generation Hope. What is it for you?

This week, make sure you're doing what you want to do in life - not what you're "supposed to be doing" or what others tell you to do.

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Have an outstanding week!

Nicole

Why I'm Starting My Own Nonprofit

2010-05-19T11:57:00.000-07:00

As you know, I'm an advocate of not spreading yourself too thin and weeding out unnecessary activities by focusing on your top 5 priorities in life. I'm a busy gal (we all are, right!?), but there is a project that I've had on my mind for years now, and I'm excited to say, it's finally coming to life.

If you're on our e-mail list, then you received the news that I'm starting my own nonprofit organization called Generation Hope, which matches sponsors with teen parents from the Washington D.C. and Baltimore areas who are attending college. Our mission is:

Generation Hope is a nonprofit organization that matches sponsors with teen parents from the Washington D.C. and Baltimore areas who are attending college and are in need of financial and emotional support. Based on the belief that education is vital to success, its purposes are to give young parents and their children a support system as they pursue academic excellence, to provide a direct-support experience for sponsoring organizations and individuals, and to create a new generation of ambitious and successful families.

Why did I choose an organization with this mission? As a teen mom, earning my college degree meant a world of difference in my life. I went from homelessness to stability, and I've achieved more than I ever thought possible. I want the same for others.

If you care about poverty, homelessness, children, and education, then you should care about teen parents. The link between teen pregnancy and poverty is absolutely clear. (Check out this article: http://tinyurl.com/273krb2 )

I'd love to have your support in this new endeavor. Check out GH's blog: http://supportgenerationhope.blogspot.com, join our Facebook page: http://ow.ly/1NfYA, and follow us on Twitter: http://twitter.com/SupportGenHope. We're excited about making this an organization that celebrates the community and volunteerism so let us know if you'd like to get involved! (Check out the "Current Needs" section on our blog to find out how you can help today!)

I'll be blogging about Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month (May) soon!

xo,

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 05/17

2010-05-17T10:33:00.000-07:00

Hey there!

Last week, I went to Texas to serve as a keynote for a teen parents conference, and one of the things I talked to the participants about is our hesitancy to work toward a goal because we haven't forgiven ourselves for things we may have done in the past. I've come to realize that NO ONE is perfect -- even the most successful people who seem to have it all. Mary Mary's quote puts a new perspective on the "dirt" from our past:

"(We) need a little bit of dirt to grow." -- Mary Mary

This week, don't get down on yourself about past mistakes or imperfections. Those things will help you blossom into the person you are destined to be!

Check out another blog entry on the myth of perfection by clicking here.

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Have an amazing week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 05/10

2010-05-10T07:55:00.000-07:00

Good morning!

What an awesome weekend! I had a great time celebrating the grand opening of the Youth Dreamers Center in Baltimore on Saturday (this is an amazing organization by the way!), got together with some of my married girlfriends for great discussions and food that evening, and then spent the day with my mom on Sunday walking through a nature preserve (I know, I know).

However, I was saddened this morning by news that the amazing actress, Lena Horne, has passed away at age 92. She lived an amazing, full life so I thought we could be inspired this week by her words of wisdom on being a top-knotch professional:

"Always be smarter than the people who hire you.." -- Lena Horne

This week, make sure you're staying sharp at work. Do you know the latest industry trends? Do you conduct research on your customers? Can you name the major players in your field?

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Have an outstanding week!

Nicole

The Number One Way to Overcome Perfection: Realize Nobody's Perfect!

2010-05-06T12:42:00.000-07:00

We seem to think everyone else has "perfected" life, and we're the only ones scrambling around. At work, the person in the nice office has "perfected" their job. In our neighborhood, the next door neighbor with the pristine garden has "perfected" domestic life. On double dates, the other couple has the "perfect" relationship.

I don't think so.

The number one way to let go of the ideal of perfection (which, by the way, will make you crazy) is to realize that NOBODY'S PERFECT. There are some people who are great at what they do. Great does not equal perfect. Under the right circumstances, an honest person will tell you that.

And even the Oprahs and the Donald Trumps of the world aren't perfect. Lots of money does not equal perfect.

So stop thinking you're the only one who can't find their socks in the morning!

Nicole

PS: Like this post? I talk about this in even more detail in my new book. Check it out!

Monday Morning Mantra - 05/03

2010-05-03T10:20:00.000-07:00

Good Monday to you!

Recently, I was listening to the radio while driving, and a woman was talking about the stress of trying to be the "perfect mother." She said women can help each other out by being honest about their trials and frustrations as parents and not projecting a perfect image. I thought this was awesome because the ideal of perfection can be really devestating in our homes and at work. So I found this Mantra from Reese Witherspoon (who I really love) that tells us to chill out:

"I don't believe in perfection. I don't think there is such a thing. But the energy of wanting things to be great is a perfectionist energy." -- Reese Witherspoon

This week, remember that there is no such thing as perfection. Don't beat yourself up about something that is impossible to achieve. Want things to be great - not perfect.

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Have an AMAZING week!

Nicole

It's Finally Here! Get Your Copy of The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want Today!

2010-04-29T10:45:00.000-07:00

It's been a long time coming. I actually wanted The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want to be out and available in 2009, but revisions took longer than expected. Oh and I had a baby somewhere around that time too. :) But I'm so proud of the finished product, and I'm excited to hear what you think!

Click here to purchase your copy today!

As you know, The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want is a simple and effective five-part process for getting what you want in life. It's not overly wordy or complicated. It makes goal achievement SIMPLE, which is what I personally like. I hope you do too!

I decided to write this book because people read Glori and wanted to know how I was able to put myself through college and pursue my dreams with a baby in tow. After thinking about it, I came up with a simple (there's that word again!) acronym for the process I use in my head. The result is a great, life-changing read.

I hope you like it! Thank you for reading my blog, newsletters, Mantras, and books, and for all of your ongoing support. Wow, you guys are great.

xoxoxoxo,

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 4/26

2010-04-26T11:00:00.000-07:00

Hey there!

This week's Mantra is for all of you entrepreneurs out there - or for anyone who is trying to complete a major project. Ever wondered what is absolutely essential to success? What do the accomplished business owners all have in their toolkit? Here they are:

"The five essential entrepreneurial skills for success are concentration, discrimination, organization, innovation, and communication." -- Michael Faraday

This week, evaluate yourself in these five areas. How are you doing?

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Have an AWESOME week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 4/19

2010-04-19T08:08:00.000-07:00

It's Mondaaaaaaay!

I hope you had an awesome weekend. Here's this week's Mantra to get you revved up for the the days ahead!

"It doesn't matter if a million people tell you what you can't do, or if ten million tell you no. If you get one yes from God that's all you need." -- Tyler Perry

Sometimes the people we want to support us the most, just don't. In my new book, The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want, I talk about being our own cheerleader. God is also our biggest cheerleader. Are you listening to the "no's" in your life? This week, ignore what others say and listen to the most important voice when it comes to your dreams.

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Have a GREAT week!

Nicole

Tax Deadline Got You Down?

2010-04-15T09:14:00.000-07:00

Today is the last day to file your taxes, and for all of your hard work to get them in on time (hopefully), some stores are giving you a treat! My favorite? Starbucks is giving away free brewed coffee today, and if you bring in your re-usable mug, it helps the environment!

Click here to find out whose offering treats today!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 4/12

2010-04-12T09:21:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday!

I hope you had an awesome weekend. I've said it before, and I'll say it again, "sunshine is so inspiring"!

Check out our Mantra for this week. Adopt it!

"My superpower is fearlessness. I'm not afraid to try anything, and I'm not afraid to walk away from a situation that isn't right for me." -- Queen Latifah

Sometimes the only way we're going to get what we want out of life is jumping right in! This week, look at your goals and ask yourself if fear is holding you back.

Have a great week!

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Nicole

The New Book Cover is Unveiled!

2010-04-08T07:40:00.000-07:00

Speaking of "young" being a state of mind, I turned into a little kid when I saw the cover for the new book, The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want! Here it is, in all of its glori (okay, I couldn't resist that). The book is on it's way. As soon as I get details, I'll tell you where you can get your copy!

What do you think of the cover?

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 4/5

2010-04-05T09:15:00.000-07:00

Good morning!

Happy Monday and happy spring! What amazing weather. Wow.

Since I turned the big 30 a couple weeks ago, I've been thinking a lot about getting older, and this week's Mantra sums up my thoughts:

"You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear; as young as your hope, as old as your despair." -- Douglas MacArthur

I'm really starting to believe that age is a mind thing as this quote describes. This week, think about how "young" your mind is. Is your faith strong? Is your self-confidence high? Do you have hope?

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Have a great week!

Nicole

My Interview with CQ Researcher

2010-03-31T12:21:00.000-07:00

This month I was interviewed by the CQ Researcher for their issue on teen pregnancy. I was able to put a real face to the discussion, as someone who has been in the shoes of a young person dealing with motherhood. The reporter, Marcia Clemmit, asked me what I thought would really help prevent teens from becoming pregnant, and my answer was that it begins in the home. Policies that educate parents about how to create loving, effective, and communicative homes are going to make the biggest difference regarding teen pregnancy and a host of other issues that young people face today.

To read the article, click here. I'm on pages 278-279.

I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Nicole

Top 5 Priorities in Life

2010-03-23T08:18:00.000-07:00

Last week's Mantra was about simplifying life by setting priorities. This method has proved effective for me. Yesterday, I was telling my husband that I was going to have to say "no" to a worthy cause if I wanted to stay sane. Bottom line? It's not in my top 5 priorities right now.

Nicole's Top 5:

1) God
2) My husand and family
3) My friends
4) My work
5) Chocolate chip cookies (okay, okay, this one is really "experiencing new things")

So I asked some Facebook folks what their top 5 priorities are, and here's what I got:

1) God 2) my family and my puppies 3) work 4) my boo and my friends and 5) my car -- Kathy

1. love, 2. relationships, 3. education, 4. exposure to new things, 5. travel -- Dena

1) GOD!! 2) My family 3)My career/money 4) Planning this wedding..LOL!! and 5) Just trying to live better and be the best me I can be. -- Sylvia

Set your top 5 priorities and see how simple life becomes!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 3/22

2010-03-22T15:53:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday!

I hope you had a great weekend and enjoyed some of this spring weather that has come our way!

As I grow my business and take on new projects that allow me to work with more and more people, I'm learning a thing or two about effective leadership. I'm not an expert, but there is one thing I know for sure - a great leader is someone who doesn't care about the limelight. So this week's Mantra from Nelson Mandela (an AMAZING leader) is about that very thing:

"Guide from the back and let others think they're running things from the front." -- Nelson Mandela (from his new book, Mandela's Way: Fifteen Lessons on Life, Love, and Courage)

Often we think we need to be right in the forefront to lead, but our most effective leadership can come from letting others step forward. This week, think about how you can apply this advice to your leadership at home and at work.

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Have an awesome week!

Love,

Nicole

Monday Mantra - 3/15

2010-03-17T13:28:00.000-07:00

Hi dears!

Have you ever heard the expression that if you figure out what's important to you, everything else will just fall into place (or something like that)? I've found this to be true. So many of us are overloading our schedules and cluttering our lives with things that really don't meet our end-goals. I find that when I focus on what's most important, I "trim the fat" out of my daily life.

For example, when I was in college, I'd just gotten out of a really turbulent and unhealthy three-year relationship with Nerissa's father. I was so happy to be on my own, free, and in school. My priorities were clear: 1) raising my daughter and 2) earning my diploma. Anything that didn't fit in with those priorities was at the very end of my to-do list each day. This system saved me from spreading myself too thin and trying to do a lot of things but not doing any of them very well!

"In a way, I have simplified my life by setting priorities." -- Karen Duffy

We can't say "yes" to everything. There just aren't enough hours in the day! So this week, list your top five priorities and plan your schedule around them. You'll be amazed by how much simpler life becomes.

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Nicole

PS: I talk about how important it is to set priorities in my new book, The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want! (Should be out any day now! I'll keep you posted!)

Why I Love "Precious"

2010-03-12T09:53:00.000-08:00

On Tuesday, I finally saw the movie "Precious," and I was completely blown away. If you are the only person on the face of the earth who hasn't seen it, please rent it. It is a painful and touching look at the realities of physical and sexual abuse that so many children face today. Mo'Nique won a well-deserved Oscar for her role as a very disturbed and sick mother, and within the first few minutes of the movie, I forgot that she is normally the fun-loving sidekick in so many comedies.

What did I take away from "Precious"? So many things, but most importantly that the role of Parent is both an honor and privilege, and our effectiveness as parents can either breathe life into our children or completely devastate them.

After watching the movie, I just wanted to hug and kiss both of my babies. Make sure you do the same.

If you want information on effective parenting, check out these resources:

http://www.kidshealth.org/

Healthy Place

Family Education

Love,

Nicole

The Superwoman Syndrome

2010-03-04T16:14:00.000-08:00

This week, we're supposed to be thinking about not overloading ourselves - not taking on too much. My husband would say that I am not an expert on this issue. He constantly asks me, "How are you going to do all of that?" and my response is usually, "I'll make it work." I definitely suffer from the "Superwoman Syndrome" that so many of us suffer from. I think and want to do it all.

I like what our Mantra for this week says. Majora talks about a more strategic approach to things, one that will help us achieve the same results without eating up all of our time and energy. I remember when I decided to tell the world about Glori. At first, I wanted to write a screenplay, but that just seemed too overwhelming because I didn't know the first thing about writing movies! So I decided to write a book instead, and in the end this was the better approach. I was able to get my story out there, into the hands of people who needed it, and now I can use the book as an outline for my screenplay (which I'm working on now, with the help of a book about how to write movies!). This is a great example of thinking of a more strategic approach to our goals.

Let me make it even simpler. I love to cook, but between a growing business, writing movies, two daughters, a husband, and a house to keep up, cooking gets squeezed in. I've learned that my crock pot is my friend. I love putting all of the ingredients in, and then walking away only to discover hours later that there is something delicious in there! Again, a more strategic approach!

This may be something you struggle with as well. So I hope you're thinking of ways to approach your goals more effectively. You can still be Superwoman - you just have a crock pot under your cape. ;)

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 3/1

2010-03-01T12:20:00.000-08:00

Happy Monday to you!

What a whirlwind weekend. I was out on Friday and Saturday night with friends and soon realized I'm too old for late nights. On Sunday I took a two hour nap!

This week's Mantra is about making sure we don't overload ourselves, which is really important if we want to achieve our goals:

"When in doubt, I ask myself, Am I biting off more than I can chew? Is there a more strategic approach to the issue? It's a way to gain perspective, to step back and chill." -- Majora Carter (Founder of Sustainable South Bronx)

I have a tendency to overload my plate so this Mantra resonates with me. As I prepare to launch and market the new book and dabble in some new projects, I need to ask myself if there are more strategic approaches to each so I can make sure I'm not overdoing it.

This week, think about whether you've bit off more than you can chew. Is there a more strategic approach to your gaols and dreams?

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Nicole

Cute YouTube Review of Glori!

2010-02-24T14:16:00.000-08:00

I recently heard from a reader named Julissa who has her own YouTube channel in which she reviews books. Check out her review of Glori. It's sweet. :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7qrN2Ntdlg

When's The Last Time You Exercised Faith?

2010-02-24T07:34:00.000-08:00

Last week our Mantra was on the importance of faith. I asked folks on Facebook and Twitter about the last time they exercised faith and this is what I got back:

"Just last week I was trying to figure out how I would get more clothes and diapers for my daughter. Then Sunday, a church member gave me a month's supply of diapers and wipes. The next day I received a big bag of clothes and shoes. Because of my faith, I got exactly what I needed." -- Martha A. Williams, MD

In life there are going to be setbacks. Believing in the possibilities of tomorrow help us overcome anything.

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 2/22

2010-02-23T10:08:00.000-08:00

Happy Tuesday!

Yes, yesterday's Mantra was sent a little late. Please blame it on a chaotic day at home with Naya!

Nevertheless, this week's Mantra is on friends because this past weekend I spent a lot of time catching up with my buddies. I went to my friend, Kia's, bridal shower on Saturday and reminisced about all of the crazy times we've shared over the years, and then on Sunday I met my good friends Wura and Vicki for Ethiopian (delish!). Although it was a non-stop, crazy weekend, when I drove home on Sunday, I thought about how I have some really awesome people in my life. They are so encouraging and so positive, and they are so vital to my progress.

So this week's Mantra echoes that sentiment:

"Life is partly what we make it, and partly what is made by the friends we choose." -- Tennessee Williams

This week, think about how the people you surround yourself with either help or hinder you in reaching your goals.

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Have an amazing week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 2/15

2010-02-15T15:43:00.001-08:00

Hi all!

I almost forgot it was Monday considering the holiday and the snow and the fact that my daughter hasn't been to school in a whole week!

I chose a Mantra on faith this week because I'm about to embark on a major, new project (can't wait to tell you about it!), and I am realizing just how much faith is required. I also feel like all of us - in so many areas of our lives - are in need of faith. Whether we're trying to figure out how we're going to pay the bills this month or we feel there aren't enough hours in the day to go to class, work, and study, we could all use a reminder about what faith is really about.

"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase." -- Martin Luther King, Jr.

Who better to tell us about faith than Martin Luther King, Jr., whom we celebrate this month along with countless others who risked everything for equal rights for all?

This week step out on faith toward your dreams.

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Have an awesome week!

Nicole

Tips for Not Wasting Time

2010-02-12T07:08:00.000-08:00

Our mantra last week was about not wasting time. Imagine all of the things you could achieve if you got down to business! I asked some of my Facebook friends how they stay on top of things, and I heard back from Sherese Seevers who said, "Make a to-do list." Great advice Sherese! This is also one of my tried-and-true practices. It keeps me on task all day long. If it weren't for my to-do list, I'd be LOST!

Here's some more advice for effective time management:

http://collegetimes.us/4-steps-to-becoming-a-time-management-master/

Love,

Nicole

Snow and Babies

2010-02-11T12:56:00.000-08:00

Please forgive me! I have not posted a Mantra in two weeks! But I have a good excuse for this week, I promise.

For those of you who don't live in the D.C. Metro area, we were blind sighted by a huge blizzard last weekend, and it didn't end until last night. Four feet of snow! So schools have been closed, and my husband hasn't been to work at all week! Also on Monday I was a labor coach for my good friend, Kendria, who gave birth to a beautiful baby boy named Mason (I'm in love!). So I had my hands full! :)

Just wanted to give you an update, and tell you that all is well. I hope you've had a wonderful week and I hope you have a wonderful Valentine's Day on Sunday. My friend, Kim, posted a recent pic of my hubby, Donte, and I on Facebook so I thought I'd post it here in celebration of love...

Love,

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 1/25

2010-01-25T09:16:00.000-08:00

HAPPY MONDAY!

Another great week is ahead, and here is a Mantra to get you going. My good friend, Kendria, sent it to me, and it inspired me in a major way. I have some new things cookin' for 2010 and they're all about helping others.

"What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal." -- Albert Pine

This week, do something for others - or for the world.

Have a great week!

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Nicole

Monday (Tuesday) Morning Mantra - 1/19

2010-01-19T06:08:00.000-08:00

Happy Tuesday!

I know, I know, I'm a day late. Yesterday, I enjoyed the day off with my family, but I'm ready to kick off the week with a Mantra!

Sometimes, I need these Mantras just as much as you guys do. Last night, I had a great talk with my husband about the frustrations I have with growing this business. I was almost on the verge of tears as I described the difficulties that come with having a great product but not enough hours in the day to tell the world about it. My husband didn't necessarily say what I wanted to hear, but it was what I needed to hear, and I found a Mantra that sums it up perfectly:

"We think we can have our visions for nothing. We cannot. Even the finest and most self-sacrificing visions have to paid for. Strangely enough, that is what makes them fine."

-- Oscar Wilde

This week, don't be discouraged by the difficulties you face when pursuing your dreams. Vision comes with a price.

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Have a great week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra 1/11

2010-01-11T07:34:00.000-08:00

Good morning dears,

Last week I was rocked by news of a good friend passing away, and it left me in a bit of a fog. I went through a slew of emotions - shock, emptiness, pain, and then calm. At the funeral service on Saturday, the pastor talked about what a full life my friend, Marina, had lived. She was so vibrant and full of laughter, she never took things too seriously, and she was a loving wife and mother.

This week's Mantra reminds us to live life to the fullest. Don't merely exist. Be alive!

"I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I have not lived."

-- Henry David Thoreau

This week, take advantage of every moment!

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Have an amazing week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 1/4

2010-01-04T08:37:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year Guys!

It's hard to believe 2010 is here. I think it flew by for me because I was pregnant for the majority of 2009, and I was counting down the days until Naya's arrival! I'm excited about 2010 and all that it has to offer. Last year reinforced my belief that trials and tribulations only make you stronger and that God always has your back.

Going along with the theme that anything is possible for you in 2010, I thought this week's Mantra should be about defeat:

"My grandmother always said, 'If it's to be, it's up to me.' If there's something you want to do, there is no defeat until you admit defeat." -- -- Anika Noni Rose (Voice of Tiana in Disney's The Princess and the Frog)

This week, don't accept defeat. Your mind is your most powerful tool in getting what you want!

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Have an awesome start to 2010!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 12/28

2009-12-28T10:12:00.000-08:00

Happy Monday!

I'm back from our annual trip up to Connecticut for Christmas (Naya, our 4-month-old, did very well. Nerissa, our 10-YEAR-OLD, ahhhhh... not so much), and it's really starting to hit me that we're about to usher in 2010. I thought this week's Mantra should get us thinking about how we want to live each day of the new year:

"Live this day as if it will be your last. Remember that you will only find ''tomorrow'' on the calendars of fools. Forget yesterday's defeats and ignore the problems of tomorrow. This is it. Doomsday. All you have. Make it the best day of your year. The saddest words you can ever utter are, ''If I had my life to live over again.' Take the baton, now. Run with it! This is your day! Beginning today, treat everyone you meet, friend or foe, loved one or stranger, as if they were going to be dead at midnight. Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again." -- Og Mandino

This week, as we say goodbye to 2009, let's think about how we will live each day of the new year.

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Have a great week and happy new year!

Nicole

How to Make Good Decisions

2009-12-22T08:19:00.001-08:00

Last week Goldie Hawn had some advice for us on how to make good decisions. I asked you guys if you had any, and here's some of what you had to say:

"Pros and cons lists, never make [a decision] in [the] heat of emotion, take all of your family into consideration when making the decision... [and] WWJD?" -- Hazel Coleman

"If the rush to buy suddenly overwhelms you, walk out!" -- Joseph Edward Brimmer

Both of these great pieces of advice were posted to my Facebook profile ("Nicole Lynn Lewis"). Thanks for your words of wisdom guys!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 12/21

2009-12-21T08:32:00.000-08:00

Happy Monday all!

Relaxation was the name of the game this weekend! We were snowed in with nearly 3 feet of snow, and we had no choice but to kick up our feet and relax. Movies. UNO games. Football. Popcorn. It was grrrreat! The whole experience made me think of the importance of relaxation in our lives, and how often we overlook it.

"Every now and then go away, have a little relaxation, for when you come back to your work, your judgement will be surer." -- Leonardo da Vinci

This week, set aside some time to relax. You will breathe new life into your personal and professional lives!

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Have a great week!

Nicole

Advice on Teamwork

2009-12-16T07:01:00.000-08:00

Last week's Mantra was on the importance of teamwork in reaching our goals. I asked for your tips on teamwork at home or at work, and here is what I got back:

Find what you're good at .. and stick with it! I'm not a good cook, the Mr. is and that's where he helps out a lot. If he cooks, I usually clean the kitchen or load the dishwasher. I pay the bills (online), run errands and PLAN. That's my thing! I feel that once you find your strength, THAT's where you help your family most. -- Marina Sue Hancock Mathews (via Facebook)

Great advice! Have any more words of wisdom? Share them with us!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 12/14

2009-12-14T18:43:00.000-08:00

Good morning all!

Ever feel like you don't know which way to go when it comes to certain decisions? This week's Mantra gives us a great strategy:

"Listen to everyone, refrain from reacting, go to your quiet corner and make your own decision." -- Goldie Hawn

This week, listen to others but also take time to think about the best decision for YOU.

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Have a great week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra 12/7

2009-12-07T08:12:00.000-08:00

Good morning all!

This weekend was a whirlwind. Donte and I attended a wedding, took the girls to the Baltimore Aquarium and went to Rissa's basketball game. After it was all said and done, Donte and I were exhausted, and I wondered how on earth we could have pulled it off without great teamwork. So this week's Mantra emphasizes the importance of working as a team:

"If I have seen further than others, it is by standing upon the shoulders of giants." -- Isaac Newton

This week, remember the value and the advantages of teamwork when it comes to achieving your goals!

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Have a GREAT week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/28

2009-11-30T06:26:00.001-08:00

Good morning all!

I hope your Monday is off to a great start.

Lately I've been thinking about love and how it should feel and what it should do in our lives. This was reinforced last night when I read 1 Corinthians 13, and it answered so many of my questions. I thought we could all use a reminder about the true meaning of love so this week's Mantra does just that:

"Hate leaves ugly scars, love leaves beautiful ones." -- Mignon McLaughlin

This week, leave "beautiful scars" on the people in your life.

Have a great week!

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- Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/23

2009-11-23T08:30:00.000-08:00

Happy Monday All!

Yesterday, my pastor talked about the origins of our church. He told us about how he applied for the head pastor position for churches all around the DC Metro area for 10 years, and no one would hire him. So, he decided to start his own church, and we will celebrate our 10th anniversary next year. He encouraged us to pursue our dreams and our passions even when things don't look like they will work out. It inspired me, and I thought this idea of determination should be our Mantra for the week.

"The difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a man's determination." -- Tommy Lasorda

You know how I feel about "The Impossibles" in our lives - those things that we consider impossible or that others have told us are impossible. I believe that they are only impossible because we think of them in that way.

This week, wake up with a determination to truly make your dreams a reality - no matter how crazy or far-fetched they may seem.

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Have a great week!

Nicole

All Teen Moms Aren't From Poor Homes?

2009-11-17T08:05:00.000-08:00

The majority of American adults believe that teen mothers are usually from homes that fall below the federal poverty level, but new statistics from the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy show that this is incorrect.

Click here to check out the study.

As a former teen mom who came from a two-parent, middle class home, I'm not surprised.

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/16

2009-11-16T12:48:00.001-08:00

Okay, so it's more like, Monday "Afternoon" Mantra!

Yesterday the sermon at church was on being thankful for what God has done in our lives, which - when you think about it - is more than we can ever really grasp. It was a jump-start on giving thanks - something we'll be doing next week over sweet potatoes and turkey.

The sermon resonated with me so much that I thought this week's Mantra should be on gratitude and what an important role it should play in our lives:

"Gratitude is not only the greatest of all virtues, but the parent of all others." -- Cicero

As you approach Thanksgiving, begin to think about the people in your life who are often under-appreciated.

This week, write a thank you letter to someone who deserves your gratitude.

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Have a great week!

Love,
Nicole

Mondy Morning Mantra - 11/9

2009-11-09T09:24:00.001-08:00

Happy Monday!

After loads of travel, it was so nice to have a laid-back weekend with my family and friends. I even managed to squeeze in a trip to the Smithsonian with the girls on Friday.

This week's Mantra reminds us of what maturity is all about:

"A mature person is one who does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably". -- Eleanor Roosevelt

Maturity isn't something that we automatically acquire over time. It takes true effort to be the bigger person and it must be a regular exercise.

This week, work on your maturity and see the difference it will make in every area of your life.

Have a great week!

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Love,

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 11/2

2009-11-02T07:34:00.000-08:00

Happy Monday guys!

What an awesome weekend. Saturday Nerissa played in her AAU basketball championship game (they lost, but I was so proud of how hard they played!), we took the girls to Harvest Fest for candy and games at a nearby church, Donte and I watched Transformers: Rise of the Fallen (very good by the way) and I spent Sunday with my mom. I love weekends that are jam-packed with good stuff.

This week's Mantra is all about new adventures and what it takes to embark on them.

"Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore." -- Andre Gide

Ever heard of the phrase "When one door closes, another opens"? Well, this quote is even better. Whenever you face a setback, think of it as a new adventure and remember that great discoveries only happen when we step away from the familiar.
This week, don't be afraid to "lose sight of the shore."

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Have a great week!

Nicole

Products that Help You Relax

2009-10-27T13:03:00.000-07:00

I was reading this month's Glamour on my way to Tampa last week, and I enjoyed their article on proven products that help you relax. I thought I'd share some of them...

Matrix Biolage Colorcaretherapie Delicate Care Masque - $20, www.biolage.com for salons

C.O. Bigelow Ginger Mentha Lip Shine Shimmer - $7.50 www.bathandbodyworks.com

Essie Nail Polish in Mint Candy Apple - $8, www.essie.com

Garnier Fructis Triple Nutrition Fortifying Shampoo - $4 at drugstores

Try them out!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 10/26

2009-10-26T18:42:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday all!

I'm looking forward to a very productive week!

I love this week's Mantra because it is a great reminder that anger and pride do nothing for our progress.

"You'll never succeed if you're distracted by anger and pride." -- Danica Patrick

Take some advice from the woman who has finished higher than any other female in the history of the Indianapolis 500 -- don't let anger or pride get in the way of getting what you want. Stay calm and focused on your goal.

This week, don't lose your cool when faced with a challenge.

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Have a great week!

Love,

Nicole

I Think Therefore I Am

2009-10-20T09:21:00.000-07:00

One of the things I talk about in my new book, The Gloriously Simple Guide to Getting What You Want (due out before the end of the year), is the power of our minds. If you don't begin to think and carry yourself as the embodiment of your goals, your goals will be that much more difficult to achieve. If you want to be a reporter, but you don't envision yourself as one because you haven't landed a reporting job yet, then your confidence will be slim-to-none.

Don't wait for someone else or something else to validate you. Carry yourself as the person you want to be. People will see your confidence and they will believe in you. It's contagious.

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 10/19

2009-10-19T05:44:00.000-07:00

Good morning all!

Happy Monday to you! Despite the gloomy weather, I enjoyed a great weekend with my family. Nerissa won both of her basketball games and Donte went to a Redskins game while Nerissa and I visited my mom and uncle. It was a nice break from the chaos of the week!

This week's Mantra serves as an ecouragement whenever we're feeling inadequate:

"If they can make penicillin out of moldy bread, they can sure make something out of you." -- Muhammad Ali

Do you ever doubt yourself? If so, welcome to the club. But Muhammad Ali's words are evidence that anyone can achieve their dreams. No person is exempt from doing amazing things, including you.

This week, remind yourself of this every time a doubt enters your mind.

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Have a great week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 10/12

2009-10-14T10:51:00.000-07:00

No, you're not seeing things - I am posting the Mantra for the week on Wednesday. I apologize for the delay, but Monday was my wedding anniversary and while I had a great day with my husband, it's taken me a little while to catch up!

So please find our Mantra for the week below:

"You've got to get to the stage in life where going for it is more important than winning or losing." -- Arthur Ashe

There is something to be said for just "going for it." There will never be a perfect time to jump out there and reach for your dreams, and there is no guarantee that you'll get exactly what you want. But the most important thing is that you TRY, and that's where it gets exciting.

This week, jump out there and do something you've always wanted to do, and remember that it doesn't matter if you win or lose.

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Have an amazing week!

Nicole

October is Let's Talk Month

2009-10-13T15:11:00.000-07:00

As you know, I'm a big proponent of the importance of communicating with your children. I've seen the value of this play out in my own childhood, and I try to stay true to it every day with my own children.

My friends over at the Alabama Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy sent an announcement out that October is Let's Talk Month, which emphasizes the importance of communication between adults and youth in helping young people make good decisions regarding their sexuality.

For more info on Let's Talk Month, please click here.

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 10/5

2009-10-05T08:47:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday!

I needed a pick-me-up this week, and this mantra is perfect. It's one of my own, and it reminds us that you can't get anywhere in life without hope that good things will happen, you can overcome, you can persevere, etc., etc.

"Hope is the number one, necessary, secret ingredient to anyone's success." -- Nicole Lynn Lewis

Remember to have hope this week - no matter how bleak and gloomy a situation may seem. It will help you come out on the other end!

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Have an amazing week!

Love,
Nicole

"Teen Mom Craze"?

2009-10-01T11:54:00.001-07:00

In the October 2009 issue of Glamour there is an article on a supposed "Teenage Mom Craze" that could be causing the teen pregnancy rate in American to be on the rise again. The article suggests that the media has been glamorizing teen pregnancy therefore more and more girls are getting pregnant because they think it's cool.

I don't think there is much validity to this argument, and it's an argument that I hear all the time when I talk to people about my book, Glori. Shows like "16 & Pregnant" are not showing teen moms living the good life, and my own account of my experience as a teen mom includes homelessness, an unhealthy relationship, and more.

So here's a letter I wrote to the magazine in response to their article:

Dear Glamour,

I'm writing in response to your article "Let's Stop the Teen Mom Craze" which appeared in your October 2009 issue.

I am a former teen mother who has written a book entitled Glori on my experience of overcoming the odds and earning a college degree despite homelessness, a drug infested environment, and an unhealthy relationship. I had to self publish Glori because literary agents and publishers are fearful that it might glamorize teen pregnancy. This idea - which is essentially discussed in your article - is really interesting to me.

The majority of girls don't get pregnant because they think it will be a glamorous experience. Lack of information on contraception, low self-esteem, little to no communication with adults about sex, and even molestation are far more serious and likely causes.

When there is a documentary on homelessness or drug abuse, people aren't quick to say that these shows are glamorizing life on the streets or heroine addiction. In the same way, shows that depict the lives of teenage mothers like MTV's "16 & Pregnant" don't glamorize teen pregnancy - they are simply telling a story that young people need to hear. Our problem with these shows has more to do with society's reluctance to discuss and to acknowledge teenage sexuality than anything else.

In closing, I think it's important for young people to see what life as a teenage mother/father is all about. Not only will it help them make better decisions, but it will also encourage other teenage parents by letting them know that they're not alone. The best thing we can do for teens is not to rip these shows off of the airways, but - as Sarah Brown from the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy said in your article - talk to them about their goals, their future, and what it really means to start a family.

Thanks.

Got an opinion? Love to hear it!
Nicole

Further Evidence on the Subjectivity of Success

2009-09-29T12:51:00.000-07:00

In my September newsletter I talked about the subjectivity of success - meaning success isn't always measured by dollars and cents. In fact, I'm learning that it is never defined by dollars and cents.

Well, my husband forwarded me an email from Family Life in which someone further reinforced my theory. Here is the excerpt below:

A friend sent me an email posting from Ruth McGinnis, a Nashville recording artist and author, who had recently been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. In the midst of her ordeal, God began reframing the definition of success in her life:

One of the most powerful insights I’ve had as a result of this unexpected detour in my well-planned life is truly understanding that the value of my work—the books I’ve written, my instrumental recordings, the speaking and performing I’ve done for countless years—has nothing to do with commercial success. I always thought that to be “successful,” I would have to register in the marketplace with some measurable impact, like making the New York Times best-sellers list. As a result, even though I’ve enjoyed a rewarding career as a creative person, I’ve always felt that somehow I’d never quite arrived—that my life was incomplete. Having cancer has forever changed this. The cards, letters, gifts, phone calls, and emails I’ve received from people I know—and many I’ve never met—have revealed to me that the reach of my work and the value of my simply being here is greater than I ever could have imagined. I am convinced this is true for each one of us. That we all tend to be hard on ourselves and measure our achievements against harsh standards. We fail to appreciate our own contributions, and we forget to acknowledge the gifts, beauty and efforts of others. I will never think of success, fulfillment and contentment the way I used to. Cancer has swept the veil away from my eyes—has given me a new way of looking at life and rethinking everything. It is an unexpected gift.

Your life will be measured, not by the amount of money or power or fame you gain, but by the way you allow God to touch others through you.

How do you define success?

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 9/28

2009-09-28T10:50:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday!

As a new mom you learn how to become an expert at managing your time. One of the things I'm learning to do is to cut out activities that don't have good reason or benefit behind them. So this week's mantra will help us remember to put our energy into things that are important:

"Everything that I decide to do means something, otherwise I don't do them." -- Celine Dion

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Have an awesome week!

Nicole

Nominate NicoleInk for Best Mommy Blog!

2009-09-26T10:49:00.000-07:00

Hi guys!

Just got back from doing my keynote in San Diego. I'm so glad to be home! I missed my family like crazy! I did meet some wonderful people at the conference though and enjoyed beautiful San Diego - I want to go back one day when I don't have a 6-week-old at home, and I actually have the time to enjoy it! :)

I saw this contest sponsored by http://www.thebump.com/ and thought I'd give it a whirl. If you enjoy this blog please nominate me for the "Working Mother" category!

Love,
Nicole!

Monday Morning Mantra - 9/21

2009-09-21T08:25:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday!

Last week I was given some bad news regarding a consulting job I've had for some time now. The economy is affecting everyone these days - including me! While it was hard to hear, I know that setbacks and challenges will only make me stronger. So I picked a mantra for the week that tells us what to do when things get rough:

"Anytime you suffer a setback or disappointment, put your head down and plow ahead." -- Les Brown

This week, when confronted with a setback, "put your head down and plow ahead." You WILL be stronger!

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Have an outstanding week!

Love,

Nicole

Three Ways to Deal With Rejection

2009-09-18T09:21:00.000-07:00

Rejection isn't an easy thing to deal with, but let's be honest, it's something we're never going to be rid of! From relationship rejections to job rejections, it's here to stay. So how can we deal?

It Wasn't Meant for Me
Everything isn't for everybody. Accepting a rejection is easier if you realize that it might not have been the best thing for you after all. Sometimes something seems like the perfect opportunity, but that may not be the case. Think of it as life's way of steering you in the right direction.

Something Better Awaits
While this didn't work out for you, something else will, and it will be even better. Concentrate on the excitement of better things to come and let that fuel your efforts. Staying positive takes the focus off of the negativity.

Everyone Gets Rejected - EVERYONE
Sometimes we forget that even the most accomplished people have dealt with rejection. No one is immune, believe me! You'd be surprised at how many famous authors, singers, athletes, politicians, etc., were told NO before they got their big break! So don't take it personally.

I'm Baaaack!

2009-09-10T16:24:00.000-07:00

Seems like it's been forever since I've posted on here. On the other hand, this past month has whizzed by. As you know, I gave birth to my second daughter, Naya Nicole Lewis, on Saturday, August 15th at 1:04 AM.

It still hasn't really sunk in that she's here. I look at her, and I'm amazed. It's as if I have never been through this before. The miracle of life never ceases to amaze me.

Other amazing things: how wonderful and supportive my husband, Donte, has been, and how doting my older daughter, Nerissa, has been. We feared that Nerissa (who is very much a Mama's girl) would be overcome with jealousy, but so far so good. She loves Naya and enjoys picking out all of her outfits. :)

It's funny how bringing a new life into the world changes your perspective on things and makes you reevaluate what is most important. I just want to be the very best I can be for my girls. And so I am back on the grind...

Love,
Nicole

The Best Way to Break Bad Habits

2009-08-13T07:00:00.000-07:00

The other night I was watching a documentary on a female chain gang at a jail in Arizona. It was a really eye-opening look at what it means to be on a chain gang, and how these women dealt with life in jail each day. The leader of the chain gang was a young woman who landed in jail because of her addiction to Methamphetamines (sadly, the majority of the women on this chain gang were in jail for meth-related crimes). However, she was thriving as a model inmate, and she took her job as chain gang leader very seriously.

So when she was released from jail everyone had high hopes for her - even the guards. Her mother made arrangements for her to live in a halfway house that would help her get her life together. Unfortunately, the halfway house wouldn't admit people on the weekends, and she was released on a Sunday. This meant she had to wait an entire day before she could begin the program at the halfway house.

When she showed up the next morning, she was high. She was so belligerent, the halfway house had to call the police to have her removed from the property. With nowhere to go, she taunted the police until they finally arrested her and brought her back to the prison she had just left a little more than 24 hours before.

When asked how she could fall back into the trap of drugs after having come so far, she said simply, "Stay away from your old friends and your old hang-outs."

This seems to be one of the best ways to avoid succumbing to our old bad habits. We need to stay away from the familiar. It's very rare that we're strong enough to resist temptation when we go back into environments that surround us with the things we're trying to stay away from. It's also extremely difficult when the people we are with are participating in those bad habits.

If you're trying to turn over a new leaf or to make some positive changes in your life, remember to "stay away from your old friends and your old hang-outs." You're fooling yourself if you think you can break a bad habit any other way.

Nicole

Monday Mantra - 8/10

2009-08-10T18:29:00.001-07:00

Hello My Dears!

Happy Monday to you! Sorry for the delay with the Mantra, but this week is a crazy one!

"Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself." -- Robert Collier

This week, imagine how much you could achieve if you fully believed in YOU!

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Love,
Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 08/02

2009-08-03T07:54:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday guys!

As this baby gets bigger, my energy is dwindling so I looked for a Mantra that would help us tap into some much-needed energy this week, and I found the perfect one:

"Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you."

Oprah Winfrey

Have an awesome week!

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Nicole

Flexibility: Unpopular but Good

2009-07-30T11:21:00.001-07:00

Yesterday we confirmed that little Naya is breech. She's been this way for quite some time and despite our hopes that she would wiggle into the head-down position, it doesn't seem very likely. So the verdict is that I will have to have a procedure to turn her and to induce my labor in just two weeks. And I know many of you think I'm crazy for this, but I'll have to get an epidural, and I was hoping to have her natural.

So there you have it. My birth plan and my vision for Naya's birth have pretty much disappeared! So what's the lesson I'm learning from all of this? Flexibility.

This isn't how I pictured things going, but in the end, the most important thing is that I have a healthy baby. That is much more important than my birth plan and my huge fear of needles (yikes!). And it's a little dose of something called life. Things seldom go exactly as we plan, and it's easy to get frustrated by that reality instead of remembering what is most important. This is a difficult concept for planners like me!

Flexibility is a good thing. It keeps us sane. It keeps us focused on what is most important. And it embraces change....

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 7/27

2009-07-27T05:39:00.001-07:00

Good morning guys!

This weekend the family and I visited the Reginald F. Lewis Museum of African American History in Baltimore, which I highly recommend if you're in town. We learned about the role that Maryland citizens played in the Civil Rights Movement, the history of the city, and more. As I walked through the exhibits, I was reminded of how important it is that we stand up -- and speak up -- for what's right. Our country would be a lot different if it hadn't been for the courage of so many...

"He who does not have the courage to speak up for his rights cannot earn the respect of others."

~ Rene G. Torres

This week, remember to speak up and fight for what you believe in.

Love,

Nicole

A Picture Says a Thousand Words...

2009-07-24T10:17:00.000-07:00

Hi all,

I thought I'd share this awesome photo with you this Friday afternoon to remind you to dream big and remember that anything is possible. It's a promotional picture for Disney's movie "Up."

Have an awesome weekend!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 7/20

2009-07-19T18:22:00.000-07:00

Morning everyone!

I took my first dip of the summer yesterday (sad but true), and it was great. I hope all of you are sneaking a little time at the pool. You deserve it!

I searched for a Mantra this week that celebrates swimming, and I found one that does that and more:

"Be a fish swimming against the current, and be a tree swaying against the breeze." -- Anonymous

This week, don't be afraid to swim against the current (i.e. don't be afraid to be DIFFERENT!).
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Have an awesome week!

Nicole

Hot Foods for Hot Dates!

2009-07-18T08:00:00.000-07:00

Hey guys,

As you know, we've postponed GS Radio shows until September, but I still wanted to share some hot date tips with you (July's theme was supposed to be "Hot! Hot! Hot!").

I stumbled across this article which highlights great date foods. My favorites: fondue, sushi, and strawberries...

Check out the article: http://food.yahoo.com/blog/foxyfestivities/23053/best-foods-to-heat-up-date-night/

I'm getting hungry! :)

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 7/13

2009-07-13T07:35:00.000-07:00

Good morning guys!

Happy Monday to you. In the past two weeks, we have been reminded of how precious life is with the passing of celebrities and well-loved public figures. It seems like every time I turn on the news, someone else is gone. But last week I also celebrated life with the birth of my nephew, Phoenix, and a good friend's baby, Melanie. Holding these little babies in my arms was an awesome feeling and one that encourages me to live each day to the fullest.

This week's Mantra is all about that:

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending." ~ Maria Robinson

This week, don't live in the past. You can start making changes today.

Have an awesome week! To receive our Mantras via email each Monday, please click here.

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 7/06

2009-07-06T09:35:00.000-07:00

Hello all,

Remember how I told you that doing the right thing will pay off in the long-run? Well, this was put to the test this for me this weekend in a major way. Even though we're tempted to go tit-for-tat with someone, we have to be stronger than that. It feels horrible in the moment, but know that later on, we'll see the benefits.

This week's Mantra reminds us of the importance of doing the right thing:

"The reputation of a thousand years may be determined by the conduct of one hour."
~Japanese Proverb

This week, try to rise above the actions of others and operate with integrity.

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Have an amazing week!

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 6/29

2009-06-29T06:17:00.000-07:00

Hello all,

Last week we witnessed the passing of several celebrities (Michael Jackson, Farrah Fawcett, and Ed McMahon), and in the process we were reminded once again that life is short. I thought this week's Mantra was a good one to encourage us during the difficult times:

"If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in between can be dealt with.” -- Michael Jackson

This week, know that you are loved.

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Have an awesome week.

Nicole

The Fate of "Jon & Kate Plus 8"

2009-06-24T08:51:00.000-07:00

By now, I'm sure you've heard the news that America's most beloved multiples family "Jon & Kate Plus 8" will be going through a divorce. The announcement came this week that Jon and Kate are calling it quits after 10 years of marriage and eight beautiful children. I have always been a fan of the show. Like you, I watched in amazement while this couple seemed to pull off the impossible. So I was saddened when the rumors of discontent in the marriage began surfacing a few months ago, and even more disappointed to hear that Kate has filed for divorce.

I don't know exactly what happened in the Gosselin household. Supposedly infidelity, disrespect, and much more has tormented the marriage. The one thing I do know is that somewhere along the way, other things became more important than the marriage -- and ultimately the family.

Many things come into our lives with the potential to threaten the things we care about most. Sometimes their allure disguises the potential danger that they possess. For instance, a high-paying job might solve your financial problems, but its demands on your time could tear your family apart. Or, a friendship that promises partying and non-stop fun could de-rail you from graduating on time. Is it worth it?

If I take anything away from Jon & Kate's situation it's that we must never let anything become more important than the things we care about most - no matter how "sexy" they might seem. In the end, when all is said and done, I wonder if Jon & Kate will realize that they risked everything for nothing at all.

Monday Morning Mantra - 06/22

2009-06-22T16:54:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday all!

This weekend we watched Nerissa play basketball at the Verizon Center after the Mystics game, and it was a good feeling. My parents and I recalled how far she has come since she began playing with an instructional league several years ago. At that point, the kids didn't know which way to run down the court. Now, Nerissa is doing so much better. A lot has changed.

Change is a good thing, and we should all be changing every single day. Like Nerissa, we should be honing our skills, always moving up to the next level, and always learning new things. As adults we often get stuck in a rut. This week's Mantra reminds us to never stay static:

"My new motto is: When you're through changing, you're through."
-- Martha Stewart

This week, think about how you've changed over the past several years, and how you're changing at this very moment.

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Have a great week!

Nicole

How to Like Difficult People

2009-06-18T05:55:00.000-07:00

This week we're focusing on strenght, and it takes a lot of strength to get along with difficult people. Check out this article on tips for liking someone better:

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/user-post-8-tips-for-liking-someone-better-or-disliking-that-person-less-471321/

Let me know if it works! ;)

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 6/15

2009-06-15T05:56:00.000-07:00

Good morning all!

So last week wasn't the easiest week. Among other things, I felt attacked by people I have come to respect and care for. And I can tell from Facebook posts and emails that many of you experienced some rough spots last week as well. So I found a Mantra that will guide us through this week and beyond.

"Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength." -- Arnold Schwarzenegger

So this week, let's all remind ourselves that struggles and the hardships make us stronger therefore we can't surrender.

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Have an amazing week!

Love,

Nicole

MTV's "16 & Pregnant" - What Did You Think?

2009-06-12T11:39:00.000-07:00

Last night, MTV premiered their reality show on pregnant and parenting teens called "16 & Pregnant." I watched it, and for the most part, I felt it accurately depicted the struggles that young people face when they experience a pregnancy.

I found similarities in the my story and the story of the first young lady featured, Maci. A prevailing theme in her episode was the struggle to hold on to her relationship with her baby's father. I remember enduring that same struggle even though deep down I knew it wasn't a good situation for me, and it wouldn't last. Any serious relationship is hard to let go of, but one that it involves a child is even more difficult. Maci -- who describes herself as an "over-achiever" -- is also going to college (she graduated early from high school) and is working part-time. She reminded me of myself, and so many of the young women I meet in my travels, who are determined to make a good life for themselves and their children. It was really comforting not to see the stereotype of a lazy, unmotivated teenage mother being perpetuated.

At the same time, I think the first episode also shows the tremendous difficulties of raising a baby at a young age. Maci -- and everyone involved in her life -- is feeling the challenges and stress that it can cause. It really speaks to the importance of preventing teenage pregnancy. The best time to raise a child is when you're emotionally, developmentally, and financially ready.

We'll have to see what the rest of the season has in store, but I think it's worth watching. For more information on the series, click here.

Nicole

A Few of My Favorite Things This Summer...

2009-06-10T11:16:00.000-07:00

Here's what I'm loving thus far this summer...

1. Italian Ices - I think having an Italian Ice instantly puts you in a good mood. Just finished a Pina Colada flavored one, and it was awesome. Try it. Find a Rita's near you.

2. Sunroofs - There is something refreshing about putting your sunroof down and feeling the breeze throughout your car. I always feel relaxed when I drive around this way.

3. Grilling - This is somewhat selfish of me - in addition to the flavor I also love grilling because it takes me off the hook from cooking. Now that I'm in my third trimester, I love this. :)

4. Red Box - If you haven't jumped on the bandwagon of this phenomenon, please do. You can rent movies for $1 a day. Donte, my friend, and I just watched "He's Just Not That Into You" the other night for next to nothing. (By the way, I thought this was a pretty good movie) We also used Red Box for Nerissa's birthday sleepover last month. Gone are the days of going broke over renting movies!

5. Evening Thunderstorms - Okay, so yesterday's thunderstorm was a bit scary, but there is something about a thunderstorm after a hot summer day that calms me. Nerissa says it makes the world smell like a rain forest. :)

Nicole

Monday Morning Mantra - 6/8

2009-06-08T07:38:00.000-07:00

Good morning dears!

Happy Monday to you! Looking forward to an awesome week. This past weekend Donte and I prepared for the baby by painting the nursery, picking up the crib, and purchasing some odds and ends. It felt good to be getting ready for our new arrival, and this act of preparation reminded me of how important it is for us to get things in order when a challenge is on the horizon. In our case, the challenge is a newborn baby who will throw us for a loop, but in your case it might be a summer internship, a trip to China, starting your freshman year of college, etc.

Preparation is so important to our success. So this week's Mantra reminds us to prepare for what lies ahead...

"The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today." -- H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

So focus on preparing yourself this week for the challenges that lie ahead.

Have an awesome week!

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Nicole